My apologies for this post. But I'm really just so disappointed. A few days before last weekend, the all-around helper asked permission to go on day off last Sunday. Our helpers only go on days off when it's payday, so they can go out and send money to their families. So we really expected her to be gone the whole of Sunday. Around late afternoon, I received a text message from her. She told me that she wouldn't be able to go home that night because a family emergency had come up. I asked her what the problem was.
Her reply:
Ma'am, nabundol po kasi ng jeep yung kapatid at Mama ko habang nakasakay sila sa motor.
(Ma'am, my brother and mother met an accident while on a motorcycle. They were hit by a jeepney.)
Horrors. I seriously felt for her and I asked her how they were doing.
Nasa Emergency Room po kami ngayon. Tinitignan po sila ng doktor. Hindi po ako makaalis kasi bukas pa ng umaga makakabalik ang step-father ko. Mga 10am po ako makakabalik.
(We're in the emergency room right now and the docs are looking at them. I can't leave because my step-father will return from work tomorrow. I'll be back by 10am.)
End of story. I didn't bug her about their situation because I surmised that being all alone, with two family members in the ER, she must have been so stressed out. I woke up way before 10am on Monday morning, went on my laptop as usual and a few minutes past 10am, she wasn't back. My kids' Yaya texted her to ask where she was, no reply. Several more texts later, still nothing. On my way to a meeting that afternoon, I got a text from her :
Ma'am, namatay na po yung kapatid ko. Ako lang po ang nag-aasikaso nang lahat. Si Mama po nasa ospital pa. Hindi po muna ako makakabalik. Pasensya na po kayo.
(Ma'am, my brother succumbed to his injuries. I'm all alone, arranging everything. My mother is still in the hospital. I won't be able to return just yet. Please understand.)
Again, I seriously felt for her. I called but she didn't pick up. I texted her and asked her to please text me when she's free to talk so we can discuss things. I wanted to ask her if she needed any help. But no reply from her the rest of the day. I started to doubt when I again tried to call her but her phone just kept on ringing. Something was starting to smell fishy. Still, I hoped to be proven wrong. I didn't want to believe that anyone would lie about her brother dying and her mother being in critical condition.
The following day, Tuesday, she was still nowhere in sight and we hadn't heard from her. I didn't know what to think. Until N got a call from her parents. They were asking him if we knew where their daughter was. N immediately called me and even if I was at a meeting, I excused myself because I couldn't believe what I was hearing.
Since that time, the helper has texted my Yaya to admit that she made the whole thing about her brother and mother up. It was all just a story. But we still don't know why she lied or where she went. We started putting the pieces of this giant puzzle together and suspected that her sudden departure had something to do with her boyfriend. Anyway, I'm not even going to wonder about the real reason. All I know is that she fooled me, all of us. We all felt sorry for her and all that time she was lying to us. Yaya says she has apologized ... to whom? Certainly not to me. Nahihiya na daw bumalik dahil sa ginawa niya. Siguro naman??? (She says she's too embarrassed to return to work because of the trouble she's caused. I figured!) The thing is, the cellphone we handed to her for use during her employment is still with her. Some of her things are also still with us.
At first, I really hoped she would come back. It will be hard without those two extra hands. I now deal with an irritable Yaya because she's doing the work of two people and she's tired. Sabine doesn't understand that Yaya has to work double-time and demands the same amount of attention from her. After thinking about it really carefully though, I don't think she deserves to be given a 2nd chance. I'll never be comfortable around her again. She sometimes takes Yaya's place in taking care of Sabine. Will I constantly worry and suspect her of doing something stupid again? I don't think it's worth it.
I don't know where to begin to look for a replacement. We don't get our helpers from agencies, only from referrals. It's back to zero and I really hate it. Worst of all, I really feel so stupid for being made to believe that she was seriously in trouble because of what she claimed had happened.
Modesty aside, Yaya has been with us for 16 years now. If I were an employer from hell, why would she stay with us all this time? I swear, some people just don't know how to value what they've got. We were really good to her, didn't treat her like crap because that's not us.
And this is what I get in return. It never feels good to be abused by anyone.
Moving on ... now where to find a new helper??? :(